On Soaring

by elizabeth
April 29 2009

broken-shell

 

“As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there with him to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might.”

–Marian Anderson

 

From the moment we are born we seek to discover who we are.  We seek our potential, our dreams and our light!  We study and practice the art of humanity, taking on the  strengths and weaknesses with which we resonate.  Identifying with our experiences and exploring new opportunities to expand our awareness of life its mysteries, we practice to master its challenges and soar into harmony with the beauty surrounding us.

As we gather experiences we begin to formulate our personality, shaping our lives in accordance with the strongest ones and creating our world accordingly.  One of the strongest teachings many of us experience is that of judgment.  We have all been on both sides of the scale, tipping it to our emotional, mental or spiritual understanding.

 

Each time we judge, we block the light we seek, casting shadows on others and ourselves.  Our judgment is a reflection of our own wounds, our personal challenges over which we have not yet gained mastery.  As we come to greater understanding, our wounds carry less power and we are lifted to greater joy within!  Where there is joy, there is no room for judgment.  Instead, there is hope and passion for living a truly magickal life.

 

Joy lightens the soul and spirit, allowing us to truly reach the heights of our dreams.  It gives us the space to allow others to be who they are, to make the choices they feel best support them.  And it provides us with the ability to create healthy boundaries, goals and HOPE!

 

Find your joy and soar to your highest potential!

from → Becoming

6 Comments leave one →
2009 May 4
CeCe permalink

Elizabeth,

Have you any practical way for and individual to become aware of holding someone down or holding ourselves down? Sometimes judgements are not recognized as judgements but as something else. Yet, it translates as judgement or criticism of something.
How do you suggest we understand or discern the difference?

Thank you!
CeCe

2009 May 7
elizabeth permalink

Judgment always blocks the Light. It casts shadows from our own wounding onto anything it touches. Boundaries and opinions are healthy and necessary in life. Supported by our desire to grow and learn, they are part of what shapes our personality. When these boundaries and opinions are born of our wounds, however, they cease to be healthy.

I enjoy ice cream. The enjoyment is personal. I like it! It is an opinion, a taste. It is okay with me that someone else does not enjoy ice cream. I do not need them to like it or even to accept that I like it!

I do not want you eating my ice cream from my bowl. I have set a boundary. I will not eat ice cream out of someone else’s bowl, therein, I honor the boundary on both sides. I understand that people may not understand this boundary, and I can graciously express it as necessary.

Here, there are no shadows, no judgment. Boundaries must not be set out of fear or manipulation, rather out of respect for oneself. At the same time we have to respect where others are in their progression ,allowing them to have their own boundaries and opinions regardless of the root.

If we always remain focused on the Light, on Hope and Acceptance, we will easily diminish and eventually eliminate the amount of time we spend in judgment. Judgment is a reflection of our own inner wounding. It is a mirror for our own pain and a reason we do not have to heal.

Connect to your emotions, recognize them, and then choose how you want to experience them. . .or for how long. Fifteen minutes is the energetic lock down for any emotional state. If we spend more than fifteen minutes in a place of anger, depression or any sort of negativity, it locks that energy into our bodies and begins a magnetic pull, attracting more of the same. The wonderful thing is that fifteen minutes of joy does the same thing!

We can choose Pain or we can choose Joy.

2009 May 7
Rhiannon-Rose permalink

Im still learning to master the 15 minute rule. I feel that I have grown alot but some core issues are harder to let go of in 15 min like codependency

2009 May 7
Rhiannon-Rose permalink

on relationships with men…

2009 May 7
Elissa permalink

Hi Elizabeth,

I like these short essays on various subjects. And the judgment one is particularly timely.

Best,
Elissa

2009 December 2
Marsha permalink

Dearsest Elizabeth,
How did you become so wise?? This article is also very timely for me and explains clearly about judgment vs opinion and boundaries. I, too am having trouble with the 15 minute time limit with negative emotions. It seems like the storm clouds gather and set in to prevent the sun from shining. I would choose the sun, but I have a hard time ‘willing’ the clouds to move.
With love,
Marsha

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