On Emotional Attachment

Emotions are cavernous and confusing things for many of us.  If left untamed, they become the masters of our universe, controlling every conscious thought, action, word and then weave themselves into the fabric of the subconscious mind, threading themselves into the roots of our very identity.

Emotional Attachment occurs any time we have a “button” pushed and we engage in the energy of that button.  A mirror for our unhealed wounds, this button holds a thread of truth, perceived or genuine, which causes our emotional reaction to a person or situation.  

The Dali Lama once made the following statement to a devotee who was reflecting on his grace and kindness, “Any goodness you see in me is a reflection of the goodness in you.”  If this is true, it stands to reason we can only see in others, that which exists on some level within ourselves.  Positive or Negative.

So how can we stop ourselves from engaging an obvious negative emotional response and keep it from controlling our behaviors and relationships?  

• Acknowledge the emotional response is stirring
• Take a few deep breaths to re-stabilize your energy and state of mind
• Identify what is actually bothering you 
• Recognize your part in it (Keep in mind that if it’s stimulating an emotional response from you, you are at least 1% responsible!  The truth never carries an emotional charge. . .)
• Allow yourself to release the piece that belongs to you if you no longer wish to have this emotional response control you
• Reassess your emotional state
• Address boundary issues if appropriate and necessary
• Move on!!

Energy secret . . . You have 15 minutes to stew if you need to stew!  That includes conversations with friends, family, or private funk-making.  More time than that actually locks the negative energies into the physical as it sends them out into the universe with a giant magnet!!

The universe understands energy.  Send out the energy you want to receive!  And don’t be afraid to look in the mirror . . . it offers huge opportunity for growth.